Are you adding value, or just shock? How do add value by being offensive? Are you shaking things up to break people out of their comfort zones in order to add more depth and understanding, or are you just working to bring attention to yourself at the cost of someone elses respect? To me, offensive behavior rings of activity that wasn’t fully, or well planned out. It does nothing really to add to the value of the situation at hand. Alternatively, heated arguments, shake up sessions, being angry and “mean” in order to bring about a needed change or a deeper meaning toward a positive resolution can be good.